Exams in Ghana is like a test to heaven so students do practically anything just to pass. 

Some might be on an individual basis, others might be in a group but at the end of the day, there is always something strange they do just to pass an exam. Below are some of them.

Dipping Legs In Water To Study

Studying for an exam is one of the most difficult times for every student in Ghana because we hardly learn ahead till the final day. One of the things most people do just to stay awake all night to learn is by dipping their legs in a bucket of water to stay awake and study through the night. Weird right?

Sleeping With Lecturers

At the university level, female students who don’t want to learn, sleep with their male lecturers just to get a pass mark. They go straight to their lecturers to offer themselves which the lecturers gladly accept. Some also are pushed by their lecturers who make them aware that until they sleep with them, they won’t pass.

Voodoo

Some students consult traditional priests to help them with some magical pen or a piece of handkerchief to use during the exams to enable them pass. This is weird because if that priest had the powers, he wouldn’t be sitting where he is, he would have been Bill Gates by now. Some even buy some perfumes which they use for the exams. Funny thing is, they don’t even pass.

Not Bathing

You will not believe this but some people actually do not bath till they’ve finished writing all their papers. They have the fear that if they bath, they will wash away everything they’ve learnt. If this is not absolute rubbish, then I don’t know what is. Question is, do they bath their brains or their bodies?
 

Dipping Pens In Holy Water

Some students visit the catholic church and have their examination tools dipped in holy water before an exam. Some also have their parents send their pens, maths sets, pencils etc. to church to have them blessed by their pastors before they start the exams. Meanwhile, pastors child will write the same exams and still fail.

Special Night Prayers

Some students resort to all night prayers to pass their exams while their books sit in their rooms unread. They pray for God to come write their exams for them. Unfortunately, most of them fail.

Bribing Lecturers

Mostly in the university, students bribe lecturers with all sort of things just to pass their exams. They offer money, clothes, jewellery, phones, etc. so they can be awarded grades they don’t deserve.

Not Talking To People

Before an exam, there are people who actually refuse to talk to anyone because they believe if they talk to you, what they’ve learnt will disappear or it will evaporate into you. They also believe that once they talk to you and you have some bad spirit, you’ll make them forget what they’ve learnt.

Eating Some Particular Food

Before an exam, some people desist from eating certain foods because they believe it affects your memory and everything you’ve learnt will vanish into thin air.

Bribing Security

Most students hide materials in the washroom and pretend they are going to urinate only to steal a glance and so security men are asked to accompany them when they request to visit the washroom. Interestingly, to make it easier, they bribe the security men so they allow them space to use the materials before escorting them back.

Aside these strange things which students do to pass their exams, some also engage in the old trick in the book, cheating.

Credits:OMGvoice 

 

Being in the university is a beautiful time. You learn so much about yourself and you meet amazing people.

However, if you plan those four years carefully, you could benefit even more than you thought possible. If you’re still an undergraduate, do these things before you leave school, your future self will thank you (and us) for it.

1. Fall in Love

You’re going to see more beautiful, handsome, intelligent and amazing men and women than you have ever seen at a single place in your life. Don’t be greedy, allow yourself to fall for one and experience the joy of real love. You’ll either win or you’ll learn; you’ll never lose.

2. Build Your Faith

You’re going to meet a large number of people you share your faith with, and they will challenge you to higher heights. Take advantage of this and learn and grow in your faith. I admit being woken up at dawn by my church folks for meetings wasn’t easy and I skipped a few, but I know how much those times helped me.

3. Bond With All Your Classmates

No matter who you are, you are bound to fight with your classmates at some point in time. The important thing here is to make up before you graduate. In the after school world, mates are some pretty important people to have in your life.

4. Learn To Cook

This goes for men and women in general. Expand your culinary prowess. At the very least, master a signature dish that you can whip up at any time when the need arises. My first-year roommate taught me a simple gravy recipe and it has come in handy a surprising number of times.

5. Know Yourself Better

Know what you like and work hard to get them. Keep the friends that will last a lifetime. Don’t waste time on trivial pursuits that you will not care about when school ends. Be the best version of you, and like yourself.

6. Talk To New People

You’re going to meet random people at events, parties, church and in your friends’ rooms when you go visiting. Master small talk and be friendly with everyone. Some of your best friendships will start this way.

7. Work On Your Grades

No matter what else you have going on in your college life, never think they are much more important than your grades. Work hard and graduate with the grade that benefits you. You can have an active social life and excellent grades. Learn how to balance your life.

8. Travel Abroad

It’s easier to get a visa when you’re still a student. Take advantage of this and travel. See the world, get some useful travel experience, and earn some money on the side.

9. Be A Leader

Run for a position in a student group you’re in. Manage affairs wisely in your lecture hall, hostel etc. Mentor a group of freshmen in your department. Read books, learn to lead and manage people and resources.

10. Befriend People From Different Backgrounds

If you’re a rich kid, make friends with someone of more modest means. Befriend people of different ethnic groups, religions and political inclinations. Learn how to see things from a different perspective, and learn from that.

11. Manage Your Time Effectively

You can’t do most of the things on this list if you don’t learn to do things at the right time. Have a schedule and stick to it. Have a system – it could be a notebook or a calendar on your phone that you use to set up reminders. Discipline is the keyword here.

12. Start And Maintain A Reading Habit

Read your course notes, but try to read something non-academic on the regular. Read a novel or some creative non-fiction and keep doing it.

13. Master Your Personal Finances

Keep and stick to a budget. Keep track of the things you’re spending on, and cut out unnecessary expenses. Know where your money comes from and where it goes.

14. Start A Business

If you’re going to live comfortably in modern Ghana, you’ll want to know how to hustle on the side, to bring home the bacon to feed the family. In my time I create blog and sell blog video tutorials, and it was fun and I learned a lot. You can try selling hibiscus drink (relax, it’s just sobolo), recharge cards, start a small catering service, to name but a few.

15. Save At Least GHC 1000

You should always have something in the bank. At some point in time after school, you’re going to be cut off from parental support. You don’t want to go to bed hungry just because you didn’t set up some savings for yourself.

16. Buy And Keep A Powerful Laptop

Make sure you leave university with a good computer. It is easier to convince parents and relatives to buy you one while you’re still a student. And if you find yourself only watching series and movies and not doing much else with it, you’re doing it wrong.

17. Learn Microsoft Office and Typing

Please don’t be that person who managed to complete their university education, including submitting a thesis, and yet cannot find their way around a word processor. Just don’t. Learn Excel too, it’s powerful. Also, learn to type fast and save yourself time.

18. Make Connections During An Internship

Don’t stay home and chill all the time during vacations! This is your opportunity to work for some of the biggest firms in Ghana. Just be bold and apply. You may even get a nice allowance for your trouble, and if you perform well, you could secure a job when you graduate.

19. Have A Plan For What You Want To Do After School And Work On It

If you want to start a business after school work on it. If you want to work in the top firms in your industry, do more internships. Have a plan and execute it. Seek help from well-placed colleagues and lecturers.

20. Learn Business Skills

We’ve all heard the story of the graduate with a first-class degree who couldn’t get a job in his industry for years. Apart from internships, you can avoid this by learning strong business skills. Learn how to give a powerful presentation. Know how to dress for business – sharp, clean and professional. Have a CV and cover letter you constantly update and improve.

Most importantly, enjoy this special time in your life. You’re only young once. Go forth and conquer!

 

credits:OMGvoice

 Comb

They need it to put their hair in order. Walking in town can mess up their hair so they need to  style it back.


Slippers

This is for emergencies. For the corporate ladies, they take off their heels and wear this when they get to the lecture hall. They also have this in their bags in just in case the shoe or slipper they're wearing, gets torn. 


Extra Clothes

This gets me a bit confuse but that's the situation. They normally have extra clothing in their bags, and you ask yourself, for what? Maybe it's for emergencies as well.




Wipe/Pad/Liner

This is obviously for sanitary reason. Can't blame them on this. The problem however is that, some don't use it.



Hand Sanitizer

Even when they don't use it, they'll still have it in their bags. It's like a fashion accessory.



Perfume

We all can't do without our perfumes but why carry it along when you've already used it before stepping out.



Gas Cooker

Sounds funny right,yes it's true but i'm sure if manufactures come up with a miniature one, they'll have them in their bags as well.

10 Things You Can Teach Yourself.

Welcome back, today we talked about how you can teach yourself in this life. Below are 10 basic principles you can use to teach yourself. Check it out.

1. Try things you’re most scared of. close your eyes if you have to, but try it. fear is an illusion—fight the anxiety with narrowed perception. it executes the pain fear can impose upon you. being afraid is venomous.

2. If you have to explain your self-worth to a person who claims to understand the workings of your mind. you’re in the wrong place, remember that.

3. Understand your weaknesses. these are temporary stops, don’t be down on yourself for breathing slower than time—patience builds strength. and yours is trying to work the best it knows how.

4. if someone does you wrong forgive them once. expect better twice, teach them the third time and you’ve done all you can to forgive yourself.

5. your ability to experience the world through touch, smell, sight, mind power and energy is your golden ticket to change it for better.

6. love is effortless, there’s no obligation, no restraints or forced energy. there’s only water and nature that proceeds. love is comfortable.

7. always give more than you expect back. the satisfaction holds a feeling you can only experience when you give without strings attached.

8. reflection is extremely important. you come to appreciate things/people you give more effort to understand. selfishness eats at the spirit.


9. trust intuition, your gut is your personal alarm clock, listen to it. find a way to understand how it operates. just trust that it works.

10. you’re better off being alone than holding onto places/people/things that make you feel lonely. be okay. be at peace with all things.

Never Give Up

  
    If you live long enough, you'll make mistakes. But if you learn from them, you'll be a better person. It's how you handle adversity, not how it affects you. The main thing is never quit, never quit, never quit.

     Abraham Lincoln Didn't Quit. Probably the greatest example of persistence is Abraham Lincoln. If you want to learn about somebody who didn't quit, look no further. Born into poverty, Lincoln was faced with defeat throughout his life. He lost eight elections, twice failed in business and suffered a nervous breakdown. He could have quit many times - but he didn't and because he didn't quit, he became one of the greatest presidents in the history of our country.


Lincoln was a champion and he never gave up. Here is a sketch of Lincoln's road to the White House:

• 1816 His family was forced out of their home. He had to work to support them.
• 1818 His mother died.
• 1831 Failed in business.
• 1832 Ran for state legislature - lost.
• l832 Also lost his job - wanted to go to law school but couldn't get in.
• 1833 Borrowed some money from a friend to begin a business and by the end of the year he was bankrupt. He spent the next 17 years of his life paying off this debt.
• 1834 Ran for state legislature again - won.
• 1835 Was engaged to be married, sweetheart died and his heart was broken.
• 1836 Had a total nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months.
• 1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature - defeated.
• 1840 Sought to become elector - defeated.
• 1843 Ran for Congress - lost.
• 1846 Ran for Congress again - this time he won - went to Washington and did a good job.
• 1848 Ran for re-election to Congress - lost.
• 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state - rejected.
• 1854 Ran for Senate of the United States - lost.
• 1856 Sought the Vice-Presidential nomination at his party's national convention - get less than 100 votes.
• 1858 Ran for U.S. Senate again - again he lost.

• 1860 Elected president of the United States.

 Darkness comes. In the middle of it, the future looks blank. The temptation to quit is huge. Don't. You are in good company... You will argue with yourself that there is no way forward. But with God, nothing is impossible. He has more ropes and ladders and tunnels out of pits than you can conceive. Wait. Pray without ceasing. Hope.

What I Learned In Life.

I've learned - That you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.

I've learned - that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back.

I've learned - that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.

I've learned - that it's not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts.

I've learned - that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you'd better know something.

I've learned - that it's not what happens to people that's important. It's what they do about it.

I've learned - that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.

I've learned - that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

I've learned - that either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I've learned - that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.

I've learned - that learning to forgive takes practice.

I've learned - that money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I've learned - that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.

I've learned - that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

I've learned - that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many years you've lived.

I've learned - that you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if they believed you.

I've learned - that no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.

I've learned - that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others.

Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I've learned - that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.

l've learned - that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other and just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.

I've learned - that sometimes you have to put the individual ahead of their actions.

I've learned - that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.

I've learned - that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.

I've learned - that there are many ways of falling and staying in love.

I've learned - that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.

I've learned - that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.

I've learned - that writing, as well as talking, can ease emotional pains.

I've learned - that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

I've learned - that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon.

What have you learnt in life????

  

The beauty of life

When you judge me, you judge yourself. People are created by their social conditions, experiences, opportunities, values, principles, guidance and problems. I myself am a product of all of these things. So when you judge me, you are judging what has happened in my life, you are also judging how I have reacted to it.

   Everybody is fighting some kind of battle... So when you meet a person you are meeting their life. You are presented with their demons and their conditioning. Their soul isn't always readily accessible.
People are only as available as they allow their fear and pain, to control their availability to themselves and then to others. You are initially presented with their representative, all the best parts of their character. Because nobody willingly lets you get close to what scares them... Not straight away anyway.

   They are protecting you, also they are protecting themselves from themselves. So if you don't manage to stick around for long enough to find out what messed them up, it's understandable. You can understand their pain without accepting their destructive behaviours. You have hidden yourself from most of the people you have ever met. Many people don't even talk to their family on a deeper level.

   I have stayed with more people, than I have met people, who have let me into their minds... When you meet a genuinely good soul... I mean someone who isn't trying to manipulate you, to serve their ulterior motives...you should stick around. Get close to them and listen to their story, wait until they feel comfortable enough to share it. Then listen.


   You will realise that most people aren't horrible, or bad... Most souls are just troubled. You can only meet them on the level they have met themselves, so don't be too quick to judge.  People have baggage, all people... So it's just about selecting carefully, the people who you choose to share your life and journey with.

Credits to chakabars

I know that you are important, but you have to believe it, you have to tell your story, you have to stand up and be counted. You need to love yourself. You can only meet a person as deeply as they have met themselves... Then you can share your energy. But first you must really know you.

When I talk about sharing spiritual energy, I am really talking about the auric field around the body; the auric field is the radiance and shine of your spirit. Your spirit and the chakra system is yours and only yours, it cannot be given away, and it cannot be stolen. The same goes for your soul. It is like the sun is sharing it's radiance and not itself.

Because the human mind is so limited, we have to break it down into limiting concepts. In truth, there is no difference. First we learn, then we practice. Energy is both seen and unseen, here we are talking about the non-physical energy, or the kind that is experienced through the awareness of the Third eye or pineal organ, and personal energy field. But wait there is more.

Read more books about history and culture, detoxify your body, cleanse your organs, stop smoking cigarettes, drinking alcohol and taking drugs, start taking vital nourishment, organic and natural, stop putting chemical products on your skin and hair, drink herbal teas and meditate. Stop consuming the souls of animals, stop f*cking people you do not like just because you are lonely, cut out the bullsh*t materialism, remove yourself from that whole scene, pollution of your body and mind are easy ways to get lost and remain there. Practice yoga, meditate and learn of peace where ego and insecurity cannot follow.

Stop drinking/brushing with fluoride, for this is calcifying your pineal organ. (Third eye)
Help others because ultimately this will help yourself. Smile at the thought of your existence, you are the universe observing itself. If you want to connect deeply with another soul, you must first connect deeply with yourself. It's not really going to happen in the club, where you have to shout to be heard, where the noise and the energy fields are lowering your vibrations. Strip away the layers to reveal your true beauty.

Do not forget to share this post.

Credits : @CHAKABAR

Given that Africa has most of the worlds resources, if it ever closes its borders to global trade,
 the world will be f*cked.

There are many Eurocentric blacks that have never read a book by an African, these same conservative upperty f*cks believe that they are better because they are of the Africa diaspora and they are closer too and benefit from white supremacy.

These people are clueless as to how to solve the problems of the African people, so when they give their Eurocentric advice, tell them to shut up. There is a difference between an African American and an African in America. The same goes for the UK, Brazil, the Caribbean and any other places our ancestors were forced to go when they were stolen from Africa.

You want to talk about nation building but you do not know about Marcus Garvey... There is a great book called "Blueprint for Black Power" by Amos N. Wilson. I will close the statement with Frantz Fanon, he is a brilliant thinker. Am not sure if you have looked around recently but the power balance is off... You might have been born in America, Uk, Brazil and many other countries,but when it comes to issues of racism, the system in these countries does not want to come to your defence, because it is set up against you.

Democracy is for the colonisers not for the colonised. "Sometimes people hold a core belief that is very strong. When they are presented with evidence that works against that belief, the new evidence cannot be accepted. It would create a feeling that is extremely uncomfortable, called cognitive dissonance. And because it is so important to protect the core belief, they will rationalise, ignore and even deny anything that does not fit in with the core belief."

-Frantz Fanon "Colonialism hardly ever exploits the whole of a country. It contents itself with bringing to light the natrual resources, which it extracts, and exports to meet the needs of the mother country's industries, thereby allowing certain sectors of the colony to become relatively rich. But the rest of the colony follows its path of under-development and poverty, or at all events sinks into it more deeply." Frantz Fanon

Credits : @CHAKABARS

I am not sure why but we all do it.

Many beings waste years of their lives, chasing after people they cannot have, or lifestyles that are not sustainable, for reasons we do not know.
You cannot have a person, either they will f*ck with you, or they will not.
Nobody is out of your league, they just do not want you in their life.

We are all human so we all make mistakes, but a mistake made twice is a choice.
Try not to seek the best looking, or those with the most money, for these are superficial ideas and money does not make you happy.
You make you happy, so if you are in a situation with a person and you have the freedom to choose, but you are unhappy, this is your fault not theirs.
Stop wasting your time.
Leave the situation.

You should be looking for someone who shares sympathetic vibrations.
Someone who is on your wavelength, someone who can share the same frequency as you.
Everything is a vibration, positive or negative.
All elements are made up of atoms.

And these are made up of a nucleus, protons (positive), neutrons (no charge) and electrons (negative). Opposites attract but if someone is in a negative space, you being in a positive space, isn't necessarily going to help them and vice versa.
You choose your own happiness, as you can choose the people you are around. (Obviously free from war, famine, poverty, drought, oppressive systems of government/religious opinions, disease etc)
If you aren't happy within yourself, you cannot be truly happy around others.
Health is not just physical.

I think this is why people love me, because I am happy and I love people.
Do not chase waterfalls, on the surface they appear beautiful, but they are usually hiding rocks that will kill you.

#chakabars

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When you begin to love yourself
When you study your history
When you study her story
When you start eating right
When you learn to love and accept others
When you read factual books
When you commit to working out
When you travel
When you act locally & think globally
When you debate with scholars
When you detoxify you body
When you decalcify your pineal gland
When you drink green juices
When you get a water filter
When designer shoes stop mattering
When you listen to authentic music
When you stop worshiping materialism
When you question your government
When you care more about humanity
When you meditate
When you care about all animals
When you become less insecure
When you get out of that toxic relationship
When you don't blindly follow religion
When you become your own motivation
When you stop being disrespectful
When you stop being racist
When you stop being classist
When you stop worshipping money
When you love you natural beauty
When you discover what makes you happy
When you're doing good for your soul
When you are helping others
When you don't demonise plants
When you hold the police accountable
When you speak for the oppressed
When you take no sh*t
When you learn to protect yourself
When you stop being so loose with your time, your body and your soul.
When you stop talking and start listening
When you teach as much as you preach
When you start researching
When you befriend more intellectuals
When you start making to do lists
When your aren't defined by society
When you affect others positively
When you smile more
When you something that scares you
When you stop reading tabloids
When you stop promoting world star fights that stereotype impoverish black people
When you stop watching reality TV...

Then come and talk to me about religion, but by this point I won't care what religion you are because you will be empowered :)

 #chakabars

So what if you have money.....What are you doing with it? Does this money
only help you or does it help others. I do not care about how much you are
taxed,you still have more than everybody else. How many friends do you have
who are not wealth? If your purpose is just to make money, for the sake of
having money.... You are lacking purpose, In my humble opinion of course.

If you grew up with capitalism, then you have been told that if you are
making money, you are doing well...... Who were you told this by? What
spiritual significance do they have? Are they merely institutions that drive
corporations that fund institutions. The logic of the spiritually devoid:
If you are making money then you are doing well, if you are doing well then
you are on the right path, if you are on the right path then you have found your
purpose... God is good, but only good to you because you are making money

How globally subjective.
Perpetually disingenuous.
Pathetically disconnected.
Pathologically soulless.
Leaving your soul and the souls of others disrespected. The top down narrative, is that
people who are less financially secure are the problem. That they are lazy and stupid
and breed too much. But this is the majority of the planet. Elitism and striving to make
unsustainable money, at the expense of others is the problem. The people with less are
not the problem. So if you are financially rich then start distributing wealth so you
can  have a more spiritually rich existence.

You suffer from poverty of the soul, if you watch suffering from your ivory towers,
surrounded by yes people and body guards. If you do not have that much organism,
unionism and start to control the rich. Just starts with your purse and your wallet,
stop settling for elitism, who cares about a big brands, what about the small organic
sustainable business.

@chakabars

Every exit is an entry to somewhere else. The end of anything is the beginning of another thing; moreover, every finish line is the beginning of a new race. As I see it, every issue of life is a part of a continuous process. And if this is the case, it simply means that even your own seemed failures, disappointments, and what you have, is not the end of your life. It also implies that experiencing any of the above instances shouldn't weigh you down, rather, you are expected to forge ahead of them regardless of how downcast/frustrated you may think you are presently.    

 To me, this quote is all about the circle of life, and the circular nature of our lives. Things start, things end. The end of one thing leads to the beginning of another. This quote states it from the opposite view point, in which the beginning of a new thing comes from the completion of the prior thing.

      While we like to think of ourselves as more sophisticated, this simple way of looking at things still has some usefulness. Especially as a time limited person, I find it hard to start something new until I have finished with something else first. Does that make a little more sense?

   I’m not talking about what to do with the wood working project after all the sanding is completed. While that may also be finishing, I’m talking more about being done with something. Taking a project all the way to the conclusion. Finished.
   It’s easy to start a project. Or a relationship. Or a painting. Or a drawing. Or just about anything else. Finishing tends to be quite a bit more difficult. Some of it is all the steps between starting and finishing. But usually, at least for me, it’s the interest, or the waning thereof.
  When one project ends, there’s a bit of celebration and enthusiasm generated by the successful finishing of it. That tends to lead to a bit of optimism in starting the next project. With time, the glow fades, and the long hard slog begins, as you march towards the completion. Or you give up, which is a different kind of finished.

Where can I apply this in my life?
In my youth, I was a starter, not a finisher. I must have had hundreds of projects I started for every project I finished. Only the shortest or most interesting ever were finished. Most of those projects were abandoned. I gave up a lot, finding the planning to be very interesting and the doing a bit dry and boring. I gave up far too often, and far too easily. However, each time a project was finished, whether by completion or by abandonment, it made room to start something else.

Which brings us back to the quote. While the end of some things are trivial, the end of other things are a bit more emotional, even painful. However, each ending brings about a new beginning. Even something as painful as the death of a parent brings the beginning of the next phase of your life.
As everything that is born eventually dies, so everything that is begun eventually is ended. There is an ebb and flow to life, and even to the things that are not alive. Some occur on scales so fast that they are almost impossible to measure, while others occur on scales so slow, they have yet to complete.

Think of your dating history. While some of you may have had multiple friends going at the same time, most of us were lucky to have one. When one relationship ended, it made room for the beginning of the next. My point is that life changes, things begin, then eventually end. Look into your life for similar changes, similar cycles. Often times, these events are looked at as lines, not circles.

While I’m sure one could try, and probably easily find, exceptions to this quote, that’s not really the point. The point was to get you to look at your life from a slightly different point of view, even if only for a moment. And now this post is done. What new beginning awaits?

Today's motivational message is about life, the
rules of life. The way we live, is largely a reflection 
of where we’ve been, who we’ve been, and the
beliefs we’ve formed. I now understand Buddha quote,
Buddha said, “Believe nothing, no matter where you read it,
or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with
your own reason and common sense.” Let's roll the stone from
the entrance of the tomb to access insight.

Whether we like it or not we are influenced by others every single day, and it can be hard to stop being influenced.  Our thoughts, our beliefs and our actions are sometimes led by others and unless we consciously think about it, we are likely to be influenced all of our lives.
Here’s a few things to think about.

9 Things to Stop Letting Others Do To You

1. Stop taking on other peoples negative energy: This is one of the easiest things to do but once you catch yourself getting sucked into that negative energy, just remove yourself from the situation.  Avoiding people who constantly have negative energy is a good strategy, unless obviously it’s a friend who’s going through some tough times.

2. Stop getting sucked into gossip: Gossip is one of the worst things to get sucked into, and again it’s easy to do.  Once you make a conscious effort to stop getting sucked into the gossip arena, then you’ll see the difference it makes in your work and personal life.

3. Stop letting others make you doubt your beliefs: You deserve to have your own beliefs and you deserve to have respect for the beliefs you have so please don’t let anyone try and change your beliefs unless you’re openly looking for answers on certain subjects.  But if you have a firmly held belief about something, defend it as it’s yours to own, but also be open minded enough to listen to other peoples beliefs.

4. Stop letting people tell you what’s possible: Honestly, anything is possible, literally anything within the realms of the physical laws of the world.  You can do anything you want to and if you have a dram, a goal, a yearning to do something don’t let other people put the idea down.

5. Stop letting people dump their stuff on you: A lot of people become dumping grounds for peoples problems without giving anything in return.  We all know people like this, they’re great at giving you their problems, but are never around to listen to yours. Dump the dumpers and see the difference it makes in your life.

6. Stop letting people take control: YOU are the only person who controls you: your mind, your body, your spirit.  Never let anyone control any aspect of you.  When you realise it’s happening then it’s time to stand up for yourself.

7. Stop letting others opinions dictate your personality: An opinion is another person’s thoughts based on their beliefs and thoughts, so why the hell should you worry about what other people’s opinions are of you, the clothes you wear, the things you do, the people you see.  You are totally unique and you should always remember that.

8. Stop trying to please others if it makes you unhappy: We all do things to please others, and it feels good to do it, but when it starts to take over you and you’re constantly looking for ways to please someone and it makes you feel bad, then it’s time to take stock and ask why you are doing it.

9. Stop letting people take your power: Your inner power is the life that drives you forward in life and letting others control any aspect of that should be looked at immediately.  It might not be easy, but you have no one else to blame but yourself if you give your power away when you are aware of it.  Sometimes we are manipulated into doing things, but once you become aware of this manipulation, then drop that person from your life.

You are so brilliantly, amazingly awesome and you deserve to know that.  Stand up, be proud and drop the the leeches that exist in your life.

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We put ourselves through unnecessary suffering when we have unreasonable expectations for others or constantly put them under a microscope. Of course, we all deserve basic things in relationships, like respect, but counting on anything other than that may leave you sorely disappointed. 

Stop Expecting These Things From Others:

1. Stop expecting them to always do the “right thing” based on your standards.

People’s morals and ethics differ based on a lot of factors, like their upbringing, culture, spiritual beliefs, etc. For example, in some Asian countries, dog is considered a delicacy, and they don’t feel wrong for eating animals we view as pets because it’s what they’ve been accustomed to. Or, let’s say you never swear, but your friend curses like a sailor. Does that make him or her wrong? Well, to some it does, but expecting them to do right in your eyes will always end in frustration, because right and wrong aren’t clearly defined.

Just focus on adhering to your own morals, and let others live as they choose, as long as it doesn’t hurt you or the people you care about.

2. Stop expecting them to be perfect.

If you view imperfections as perfect, then you won’t ever feel disappointed. However, a lot of people still give others a really hard time when they slip up, and it makes them feel like a letdown, plus it can seriously strain relationships. If anything, you should actually discourage others from becoming perfectionists, because this obsessive compulsion to have everything just right can lead to depression, anxiety, chronic diseases, and a higher risk of suicide, according to a paper in the Review of General Psychology. 

Allow people to make mistakes and learn from them, and think about how life would be if no one ever messed up. We’d be a world full of cold, heartless robots, and I don’t think anyone wants to see that reality play out!

3. Stop expecting them to agree with every word you say.

Even the best of friends don’t agree on everything, so don’t get upset when people challenge what you say, or simply have a different opinion. The world would be quite boring if no one ever disagreed; our unique perspectives and beliefs allow the planet to keep evolving and moving toward better solutions.

Think about what would happen if we all agreed with continuing to use fossil fuels to power our cars, houses, and just about everything in our lives…we wouldn’t have solar panels and electric cars if no one challenged the mainstream!

4. Stop expecting them to read your mind.

Some people have a more finely tuned intuition, but others just can’t read feelings or faces as well. Just because you might be more sensitive and understanding of how others feel doesn’t mean other people are on the same wavelength. Not everyone wants to become a psychic, so express yourself clearly so others don’t have to guess your thoughts all the time. Honest, open communication builds stronger relationships, too.

5. Stop expecting them to pick you up every time you fall.

Of course, good friends and family will help you when you need it, but don’t count on them to brush the dirt off your shoulders every time. Maybe they have their own internal struggles and can’t carry the weight of both your problems and theirs at the moment, so try to understand their point of view. They want to help, but just can’t for the time being. That doesn’t mean they don’t care, it just means you have to channel your inner warrior and fight your own battles sometimes.

6. Stop expecting them to understand you.

“Not everyone will understand your journey. That’s fine. It’s not theirs to make sense of – it’s yours.” – Unknown

As long as you understand you, you won’t feel the need to gain acceptance from others. Then, the fact that they just don’t “get” you won’t really phase you anymore.

7. Stop expecting them to treat you how you treat them.

Ideally, everyone would follow the golden rule, but we don’t live in a perfect world. Until everyone becomes more conscious, we will just have to accept that people will still treat us poorly because they lack a true relationship with themselves. View their attitude from a compassionate stance, and you won’t feel so hurt if people don’t treat you as kindly as you treat them.

8. Stop expecting them to be the same person they were a year ago.

People change over time based on their experiences and circumstances. Every day, people fight a tough battle that no one truly understands but them, so keep this in mind when you get the urge to judge them. Love everyone no matter what or who they’ve become, not just if they meet your ideals or standards.

9. Stop expecting them to always have everything together.

Life throws everyone a curve ball from time to time, and it may take people longer than expected to make it up to the plate. Have compassion for others, and understand that everyone is just trying to do the best they can. Focus on bringing more value to the world and into your relationships, and don’t try to control or chastise others for how they handle their lives.

10. Stop expecting them to give you love if you don’t first offer it to yourself.

All relationships start and end with you, so truly have to cultivate love within yourself first if you want it to make that full circle back to you. Using others to shower you with the love you refuse to give yourself will only lead to strained, insincere relationships. Developing a more loving attitude toward yourself, however, will bring about beautiful, thriving relationships.

“Don’t forget to fall in love with yourself first.” – Carrie Bradshaw
 Source: PowerOfPositivity.com

If you have dry skin, you have to be extra careful as it can lead to cracks and fissures in the skin and in winter situation may be out of control if you are not taking proper care. Sometimes dry skin is hereditary but most of the times it is because of external causes like

Using hot bath water
Washing with harsh soap
Hard scrubbing of skin

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There might be plenty of reasons behind dry skin but you can make it smooth and supple with basic care routine
 
Try below given tips


1. Use warm water for bath, say no to hot water

Hot water will pull all natural oil from body that result in dried out skin. Take 5-10 minute shower with warm water












2. Cleanse Gently.

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Wash with a soap less cleanser when you shower. dermatologist says gentle soaps that are free of fragrance are a great option. Products with deodorant or antibacterial additives can be harsh on skin
















3. Apply moisturizer

Pat your skin with a towel after you shower or wash your face or hands, leaving it damp. Apply a moisturizer within three to five minutes of washing to lock moisture in your skin.
Petroleum jelly makes a great moisturizer or you can use mineral oil, a favorite cream, or lotion.
















4. Drink enough water

Drink enough water to keep yourself hydrated











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